Thinking about growing our family again, actually chomping at the bit to start.
Soon it will be time to add to our family again, and I am so excited. The Daddy and I agreed we wanted to add to our family by adoption before we even married; it is something that is very important to both of us. The boys have been asking when they are getting a sister, why they do not have a sister and can we get a little girl for some time. In last February we will be moving, finally, to ‘home’ for me. We will live in the same town my Grand Pat and PaPa. Once we are moved in The Daddy and I are going to apply to be foster parents and start the road to foster to adopt.
The foster to adopt road is a long one, and we know a difficult one. We strongly that our family has something to offer and that there is a little girl out there waiting for us.
We can not apply till we are moved; so March of 2013. In the mean time, I have created a long To Be Read list. This list I have cobbled together from many sources; many of the International Adoption agencies I have looked at in the past have had suggesting reading lists, I belong to a couple of message boards and yahoo groups where I have noted all the recommended books that other “been there, done that” families have shared as useful, and I have been time searching amazon.com too.
This is not my complete list; but it is a start. I will make a page on my bookshelf of my Adoption and Foster Care books; and I will add to that as I find more and study more. This is my general list, I also have several books titles save that address tran-racial adoption, deaf adoption, children with serious attachment issues (like RAD) and siblings or serious special needs and their impact on the family.
All of these books can be found on amazon.com. I however will be working my way though the list at the library; I love the ability to request books they do not have on their shelves. There is realistically no way I will read this whole list, but I continue to add to it so that I have as many resources as possible.
- Adopting a Toddler: What Size Shoes Does She Wear? by Denise Harris Hoppenhauer
- Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families with Special-Needs Kids by Gregory C. Keck, et al.
- Another Place at the Table by Kathy Harrison
- Becoming a Family: Promoting Healthy Attachments with Your Adopted Child by Lark Eshleman
- Before You Were Mine: Discovering Your Adopted Child’s Lifestory by Susan TeBos, Carissa Woodwyk
- Building a Home Within: Meeting the Emotional Needs of Children and Youth in Foster Care by Toni Vaughn Heineman (Author), Diane Ehrensaft (Editor)
- Building the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Love in Deeply Troubled Children by Daniel A. Hughes
- Finding the Right Spot: When Kids Can’t Live with Their Parents by Janice Levy
- Healing Parents: Helping Wounded Children Learn to Trust & Love by Michael Orlans
- Helping Children Cope with Separation and Loss, Revised Edition (Non) by Claudia Jewett Jarratt
- LifeBooks : Creating a Treasure for the Adopted Child by Beth O’Malley
- New Families, Old Scripts: A Guide to the Language of Trauma and Attachment in Adoptive Families by Caroline Archer
- Nurturing Adoptions: Creating Resilience After Neglect and Trauma by Deborah D. Gray
- Nurturing Attachments: Supporting Children Who Are Fostered or Adopted by Kim S. Golding
- Parenting Other People’s Children: Understanding and Repairing Reactive Attachment Disorder by John L Stoller (Author)
- Parenting the Hurt Child : Helping Adoptive Families Heal and Grow by Gregory C. Keck, L.G. Mansfield
- Parenting Your Adopted Older Child: How to Overcome the Unique Challenges and Raise a Happy and Healthy Child by Brenda McCreight
- Practical Tools for Foster Parents by Lana Temple-Plotz (Author), et al.
- Rebuilding Children’s Lives: A Blueprint for Treatment, Foster Parents by Chritena B. Baker (Author), et al.
- Shield: A Framework of Self-Care for Foster and Adoptive Families
- Successful Foster Care Adoption by Deborah A. Beasley
- Talking with Young Children about Adoption by Mary Watkins
- Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child: Making Sense of the Past by Jayne E. Schooler, Betsy Keefer
- The Essential Link: Attachment Information For Adoptive Parents by Susan M. Ward
- The Foster Parenting Toolbox by edited by Kim Phagan-Hanse
- The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child by Nancy Verrier, Nancy Newton Verrier
- Toddler Adoption: The Weaver’s Craft by Mary Hopkins-Best
- Welcome Home, Forever Child: A Celebration of Children Adopted as Toddlers, Preschoolers, and Beyond by Christine Mitchell