Luke 21:36 Watch ye therefore, and pray always, that ye may be accounted worthy to escape all these things that shall come to pass, and to stand before the Son of man
As most of you know I have been reading and writing a lot about head covering and modesty. I do not mean to teach or preach to anyone else, I am by no means qualified to do THAT 🙂 but I find this a fascinating topic, the material is so rich (if not varied) and comes not only from the Christian schools of thought, but the Muslim and Jewish schools as well. The approaches, the paths, are diverse and the roots of the practice are so interesting. If nothing else, it is mental exercise for me, challenging and engaging and worthwhile.
Here are my previous blogs posts on this topic, you will notice that there has been a bit of a stir about my thoughts and my observations on life as reflected in the discussion of modesty and covering.
A good friend, after reading my last post and a few of the comments asked me “well what did you decide, what are you doing?”
Oh, yes, I guess looking back I have never actually spelled out anything about reality, only thought and my constant reading. Ooops 🙂 . So the point this short post is to give you a glimpse of reality, how my current reading, studying and thinking (and praying) is impacting my daily life as a wife, as a mom.
A couple of points:
I have never in my life heard a teaching / preaching / sermon or Homily on either the practice of covering (in general or in church or pray) or on 1 Cor 11:2-16. I find this fact amazing. I am well over 30; and I grew up in the Church and have been in one church or another most of my life (a couple of years off in college, you know how that goes, I am not proud of it, but it is the reality). If you take 30 years (given I was not paying attention as a small child) and assume one sermon a week for lets just say 45 week a year (and that is a under-estimate since for at least 2 years I attended service 2x a week, each week and for at least 3 years I attended service 3x a week each week) – that is 1350 sermons. I have been to retreats and Bible conferences and other such activities, and again never heard a word about I Cor 11; not even as part of another message. I am amazed and stunned at how seemingly intentionally and carefully the subject is avoided. I am actually would love to ask our current pastor about it, but I can’t think of any way to do so without appearing to be looking for conflict.
My hubby is not in favor of me covering, honestly he is more opposed to it. His reasons or feeling on the matter:
- He does not think I look attractive with my hair all pulled back from my face, says he makes me too harsh looking. He likes me to look nice when I am with him.
- As far as covering as an element of modesty: Hubby feels that covering attracts attention rather than ‘defecting’ the attention as an article of modesty should. He feels that given where we live covering would be more ‘drawing’ notice than ‘actually covering’.
So neither Hubby nor church, needless to say, are a driving force behind my covering, or my path to modesty, and really Hubby is in no way a proponent of me choosing to covering, and actually is somewhat opposed to it.
Again, so what is the practical application of all this? What am I doing?
- I have been covering about 80 to 90% of the time I am not with Hubby. I find it a great reminder. A visual sign outwardly than convicts me inwardly. I remember a pastor’s wife once talking about how much more of a courteous drive she found her self to be driving the church van. I think it is the same thing, covering is a visual ‘talking the talk’ and so it makes me more accountable to walk to walk. I am a better parent and a more controlled person when I cover.
- I do not cover with Hubby. (so I currently do not cover at church, ironically enough)
I am not sure long term what this is all going to look like for me. I am trying to be lead and not take the lead in that, and that in and of itself is a growing process for me. I am not at a place where I can call this topic done, but I am trying to diligently apply to my actual life the learning and thinking that I have been occupying myself with.
This is still a topic very much on my heart, I have more research to share, more reading I am doing and wish to do.
I am excited that I got a copy of Glories Seen & Unseen: A Study of the Head Covering of my very on coming, I got it off paperbacksvap.com. I have had it on my wish list for a long time (I read it of ILL) and find it a nice coincidence that I got the e-mail today saying that it had been posted and I could have it.